Category Archives: Nancy

one big altar

Posted on October 18, 2014 by Tom Childers

(December 8, 2013) Five years ago, this was how my house looked at Christmas. In fact, I have a blog post exactly five years ago tonight, with the same photo. Nancy and I moved into our new home in July … Continue reading →

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returning home

Posted on August 23, 2014 by Tom Childers

Ah, home. The word means something different when we are days or weeks away. A driving trip to a distant place makes home far away, and I had lots of time to contemplate as I journeyed back with my Canadian … Continue reading →

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the roxy road

Posted on August 18, 2014 by Tom Childers

Today is transition day, I’m feeling a ton of things, and letting something shift inside. Punctuated by Roxy Music. Al and Kathy have put us up in a delightful cottage on their property on Duck Lake, and this has become … Continue reading →

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prelude to transition

Posted on August 2, 2014 by Tom Childers

In a few days, I’ll be starting a two-week road trip to Ontario, Canada.This will be my first long driving trip in years. It is also a journey that will mark a deep change. I’m going to Canada to scatter … Continue reading →

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a pleasure of faith

Posted on February 1, 2014 by Tom Childers

I had a heart-opening, delightful and perfect moment this morning, one that I’m sure I will relish for a long time. I found the missing candle holder. On some level we all live amidst chaos, and I often feel like … Continue reading →

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miss powassan

Posted on October 5, 2013 by Tom Childers

I’ve been continuing to think about boats over the last few weeks, and it’s going to be a few years before I can seriously consider purchasing a big enough boat to live aboard. Many of you don’t know that I … Continue reading →

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inner light

Posted on May 23, 2013 by Tom Childers

So much has been going on inside over the last month, it’s hard to articulate. I tried to start writing earlier tonight, and couldn’t find the words, so I did an unconscious thing, and watched one of my favorite Star … Continue reading →

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first loop around the sun

Posted on December 21, 2012 by Tom Childers

I’ve been continuing to reflect on the last year, re-reading my blog postings from a year ago as Nancy and I navigated her hospitalization.  Early last December, we realized that she would not survive, and a year ago this afternoon, … Continue reading →

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remembering the mozart wait

Posted on December 4, 2012 by Tom Childers

Since late October, I’ve been re-living the same time last year, the final fifty-six days of Nancy’s life, in the ICU at UCSF. When I went through the experience, I just had to show up each day, fully present, in … Continue reading →

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coming to term

Posted on September 29, 2012 by Tom Childers

We all recently passed the nine-month mark since Nancy’s passing. It’s damn spooky (or maybe just divinely perfect) that she died on the longest night of the year, and every change of seasons for the rest of my life will … Continue reading →

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